There are certainties in life, death and taxes as the saying goes but for martial arts teacher the third one is students come and students go. For some the journey of them training in a class can be short and others in can be long. The relationship between the student and teacher can also be very different. For some there nothing share between the two except money and service, while other teachers teach, in a more open, friendly and martial arts brotherhood way. Depending on the way these two relationships are, corresponds to the way you should say goodbye.
If the relationship is simply about you pay and get a service, there probably no need for a good bye, other then making sure, you have paid up to date and given the proper notice of time to cancel according to your teacher requirements.
If the relationship is a good one between you and your teacher than these simple steps are a good guide and a honourable way to do things. 1) Tell your teacher directly and in person you are leaving in . If this can't be done then phone and talk, please don't do it by text or email, or even worse don't even let your teacher know (AWOL) or your teacher finds out second hand, it's soulless, disrespectful and means you didn't value your time with your teacher. He may be disappointed (least that's better in him be happy you going lol ) but he will respect that you took the time to tell him. Remember.. and this is always overlook by many " Your teacher accepted you, with all your faults, into his class and took the time to help you settle in, and tried his best to help you" he didn't have to do this but he did accept you ! 2) Make sure you give your teacher a bit of notice your intentions about leaving. Don't wait till a training payment is due and tell him then. Most teachers now have to commit months in advance to hire hall, pay insurance, make them selves available to teach etc.. by giving your teacher a bit of notice of what happening with you and your training, your teacher can make arrangements to look for another student. Most teachers have to budget for their clubs especially nowadays, and so by your actions you can suddenly change the budget, placing short term hardship on your teacher or club. Remember if you were in a job and your boss said to you, at end of today you no longer working, what kind of stress would that put you under. Teachers nowadays are under the same pressure, so try and give some notice, allow your teacher the time so he can either re adjust the budget or find a new student.
Now I know people today are more self center and don't care about others, but if you find yourself in a place where you have to leave training, these simple steps can help the process and does shows, even though you cant continue training you do respect what you learnt.. As a teacher myself I know how much it hurts inside when you put time into a student who claims they wants to learn and he just walk away without a thought. While others who stop training the proper way still remain friends outside of martial arts and may even return at some point. It parts of the martial arts process older students give way to newer students. Try and do the decent thing, no matter what style your teacher teaches, if you enjoy your time, and your teacher has tried his best for you..
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